Wednesday's Worrier: The Marriage Jar

Some pains in life simply just don't go away. They aren't meant to, at least for a while. This can be a beautiful thing which can humble us and make us see others and the world around us in a kinder light.

And sometimes there is nothing redemptive about it: It just sucks.

To embrace this, I've decided to get creative. I am a single. Yup. Male, college student, graduating soon. So, without fail, when my dating life becomes a conversation topic, the following sentence is uttered in one form or another-

"How is a great guy like you still single?"

1. Yup...don't you just love it?

And it is usually followed by something like

2. "I'm sure there is a girl out there for you somewhere! In fact, let me introduce you to this friend of mine. She's..."

First, On a scale that measures how awful something is, these sentences are on par with an infant vomiting on you while holding it. You can't get mad at them. Their intentions are more than kind, but you are now 'marked' with a bad taste in your mouth.
Second, it doesn't matter how amazing the female is you are trying to set me up with, the description will be less than flattering (Why is the go-to adjective "she's such a sweet girl"?).

I recently saw a "Swear Jar" in an office. The idea is to clean language by requiring anyone who curses to put a dollar into the jar. The money is then used to throw a party or buy something for everyone in the office. Not a terrible idea right? And it gave me an idea.

I'll start my own marriage jar. Every time the conversation of my unsuccessful dating life and or floundering quest to find someone I want to spend the rest of my life with arrises, I'll put a dollar in my "Marriage Jar". What will I do with the money? I have no idea, but it is going to epic. At least better than my dating life is currently...and there goes the first dollar.